It's always a question us Moms hate to admit. As a Mom of two young girls, I've always
believed that no Mom could get along with all of her children equally. I'm not talking
about loving your children, I'm talking about getting along with them. I do believe that
Moms love all their children to the same extent. But, when it comes to who we
actually get along with, there are kids that are more drawn to their parents
For starters, my girls are still pretty
young (5 and 2 1/2 years old). They are just developing their personalities and
my oldest just started kindergarten. I can't honestly say in my heart that
there is one that I'm drawn to the most at this point in time, but I'm not dumb
to the fact that it may very well happen.
Growing up, we always knew who the
favorite sibling was. I don't think my Mom loved them anymore than me but she had her favorite. He was a favorite to everyone in the family, which is why I
didn't blame her. I don't believe I've ever let it really affect me. I don't hold any jealousy or resentment about it. It just is what it is.
So... with all that being said, how does a Mother deal with the grandparent’s favorite? How does the parent deal when a
grandparent favors one grandchild over another, especially when the two
opposing kids are both your children? This is something I have been struggling with,
trying to wrap my brain around. It's hard because it's hurtful to my daughter.
I hate for my child to have to go feeling unloved
by their grandparent. It's devastating when it's so present and you feel the
heartbreak as it's happening right before your eyes but what do you say? It's not like one is spoiled
with more gifts than the other. It's so simple that it can be objected and
denied. It's in the way one looks, talks, responds and physically shows
When I child goes to hug a grandparent and
they don't receive a hug back, what is the child to do? It's hard when you see
it and its even heart wrenching when the kids acknowledge it, too.
I wish a gentle conversation would work in
this situation but it hasn't and at this point I can't force someone to feel
something they don't. So it is what it is. I'm a strong believer in people
creating their own situations and this will unfortunately stick with my daughter.
One day, when
they wake up and realize the situation they have created, they have no one else
to blame but themselves because you can't expect a young child to develop and
cope with these type of feelings like an adult would. We all make our own beds
and the reactions we have to other people are what we have to live with. We
can't expect a situation to be one way when we are not willing to work for it.
What would you do in a situation like this?